Beyond the Stigma: What I Wish I Knew About C-Sections
C-sections are super common — in fact, they account for over a third of all deliveries in the U.S. as of 2024. But for something so normal, there’s still a ton of mystery (and stigma) around them. People whisper about “emergency C-sections,” throw around words like “failed labor,” or talk about them like they’re the “easy way out.” Spoiler: they’re not.
We sat down with Dr. Jen Wagner, an anesthesiologist, and Bethany Scott, co-hosts of The C-Section Experience podcast, to talk through what actually happens during a C-section, what recovery looks like, and what every parent really wishes they knew beforehand.
Why Do People Get C-Sections?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Some are planned, some happen after hours (or days) of labor, and others are done for medical reasons that have nothing to do with “how hard you tried.”
Reasons include:
Fetal position: The baby is breech or not in a safe position.
Labor complications: Things aren’t progressing or are becoming unsafe for mom or baby.
Fetal distress: The baby’s heart rate signals it’s time to deliver, now.
Placenta or cord issues: Like placenta previa or a cord that’s in the wrong spot.
Maternal health concerns: From pre-existing conditions to physical factors that make vaginal birth risky.
Repeat C-sections: Around one-third of C-sections are repeat procedures.
For some, like Bethany, a planned C-section after a previous stillbirth provided peace of mind and a sense of control: “It was the best decision for my mental health.”
You’re Not Just Lying There — You’re Still in Control
One of the biggest misconceptions? That a C-section is something that just happens to you.
Dr. Wagner told us that there are so many ways to make a C-section personal:
You can choose your playlist (someone once had “Tiny Dancer” playing — iconic).
You can talk with your anesthesiologist and care team throughout the procedure.
You can ask your partner to take photos or be the first to hold your baby.
“People don’t realize how awake and present they can be,” she said. “You are still giving birth. You’re still the one bringing your baby into the world.”
What to Expect During a Scheduled C-Section
Here’s a quick breakdown of what actually goes down:
You’ll arrive a couple of hours early to prep — bloodwork, IV, consent forms.
You’ll head into the OR for your spinal anesthesia (don’t worry, your partner joins you right after).
The surgical team sets up monitoring and sterilizes the area — compression boots, drapes, the works.
You won’t feel pain, but you might feel pressure or movement.
The baby is delivered, often followed by delayed cord clamping and skin-to-skin time right there in the OR.
It’s surreal, beautiful, and yes, a little weird — but you are absolutely part of it.
Recovery Real Talk: What They Don’t Tell You
Let’s be clear: a C-section is major surgery. You’re recovering from that and caring for a newborn at the same time.
Here’s what our experts want every new parent to know:
VBACs (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) are possible for many — talk to your provider.
Bleeding happens no matter what. Pads, not tampons, for a few weeks.
Scar care matters. Silicone strips, gentle massage, and physical therapy can make a big difference.
Bonding takes time. Some moms feel that instant rush, others don’t — and both are totally normal.
Top 5 C-Section Tips (Straight from the Experts)
Protect the golden hour. That first hour post-birth? It’s sacred. Limit visitors, soak it up.
Move early, rest often. Gentle movement helps healing, but listen to your body.
Ask for a two-week checkup. Six weeks is too long to wait if something feels off.
Track everything. Meds, diapers, meals — you’ll forget otherwise.
Advocate for yourself. If something doesn’t feel right (or a nurse isn’t your vibe), speak up. You deserve support that feels supportive.
Final Thoughts
Whether your C-section was planned, a surprise, or something you’re preparing for, it’s still birth. You’re still a badass.
If we could go back, here’s what we wish we knew:
A C-section doesn’t define your motherhood — it’s just one of many ways to bring your baby into the world.
For more insights (and myth-busting), check out The C-Section Experience podcast with Dr. Jen Wagner and Bethany Scott — they’re real, relatable, and hilarious in all the best ways.