The Stories Women Deserve to Share with Dr. Jessica Zucker

We just sat down with Dr. Jessica Zucker — psychologist, bestselling author, and the force behind the I Had a Miscarriage movement — and this convo hit us in the gut in the best possible way.

If you’ve ever wondered why talking about miscarriage, infertility, or frankly any reproductive experience feels so taboo… it’s not you. It’s the culture we’ve all been marinating in.

The Silence-Stigma-Shame Loop (and why it’s breaking us)

As Dr. Zucker puts it, our culture has trained women to stay quiet about the exact things we should be talking about. Pregnancy loss, infertility, postpartum mental health, menstruation, perimenopause — the whole spectrum.

When we don’t talk about these things?
Silence turns into stigma.
Stigma turns into shame.
And then we internalize it like it’s a personal failure.

No wonder so many women describe pregnancy loss as shameful or feel like their “body failed.”
We’ve been conditioned into that belief system from the moment we learned to whisper about our periods.

The kicker? These experiences are common. One in four pregnancies ends in loss — and yet the dominant message is: don’t talk about it, don’t make anyone uncomfortable, keep it moving.

The Radical, Healing Power of Storytelling

Dr. Zucker didn’t come to this work on the outside looking in — she lived it. After losing a pregnancy at 16 weeks, she saw firsthand how isolating and unsupported the experience can be.

Her mission became clear:
Normalize it.
Name it.
Tell the truth about what women go through.

And this part blew our minds:
Sharing your story — privately or publicly — can literally change your brain chemistry.
When we shove big feelings down, they don’t stay down. They turn into shame, fear, anxiety, depression… the stuff so many of us carry quietly.

But when we give our stories air — in therapy, in writing, with a friend over coffee — something shifts. The shame doesn’t get to run the show anymore.

That’s the power of saying the quiet parts out loud.

Why This Matters for Every Woman

This conversation isn’t just about miscarriage.
It’s about all the parts of womanhood we’ve been told to keep small, tidy, and silent.

The grief.
The fear.
The rage.
The confusion.
The joy we feel guilty for.
The pain we think we “should be over” by now.

Dr. Zucker’s reminder is simple but life-changing:
Talking about your experience doesn’t make you weak.
It makes you human.
And it makes healing possible.

If this resonates… keep going

Dr. Zucker’s book Normalize It is a must-read for anyone ready to reclaim their story.
You can find it wherever books are sold and follow her work at @ihadamiscarriage.

And if your big feelings feel heavy — you don’t have to carry them alone. We’re right here with you.